Suzie: Welcome to sharing my truth with Mel and Suzie. The uncensored version where we bear it all.

Mel: We do 1234.

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Mel: Very good.

Suzie: Hey, babes.

Mel: Hello, Danny.

Suzie: Hello.

Mel: I'm Verbulus super duper, super fantastic, super.

Suzie: I feel like I'm a bit sniffly. Allergies are very bad in London.

Mel: Yeah, they are. Oh, my God, there's so many trees and so grass. It's a nightmare.

Suzie: I'm like. And the air is way more dry here. Obviously, we're talking about the weather. It's very exciting, but it is.

Mel: Well, that's very british of us. It is britishism. We talk about the weather.

Suzie: It's so wet and rainy and cold. Yes, but not today. It's gorgeous.

Mel: Today is a very nice day. But it doesn't help with the old allergies and all them trees.

Suzie: Oh, my God, I'm literally dying right now.

Mel: Sniffle, sniffle.

Suzie: I shall survive. I shall survive. Well, Mel, we have a cute little top pick.

Mel:  Yes. Now, this is a question that somebody asked us, so we'll see if we  can answer it. Yeah. Yep. Is if your friend is like, on the dating  scene, whatever that means. The apps, the real world, the apps, I don't  know, it's terrifying. Yeah. And they cannot get a date. Like, nothing  kind of works. And, you know, why do you say something that's. That's  the question that we have imposed. So we're going to attempt. Well, all  we're going to do is give our opinions, and ours, I'm guessing, are  going to be different and that might help in some way.

Suzie:  Do you tell them? It depends on how close you are to this friend. I  think you can not tell them being like, hey, you're kind of a *****, so  you're probably not getting any dates. I don't think that's what you  say. I think you just kind of guide.

Mel: Them really into, I mean, depending on.

Suzie: The friend maybe, but yeah, I feel like there's ways to guide them nicely into a different way of thinking, maybe.

Mel: I think we agree.

Suzie: Oh, good.

Mel: I  think, yeah. You cannot just go, oh, yeah, you're an ugly whatever or  fix your teeth or dye your hair or something, because you could really  hurt somebody's feelings.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: And it's not for you. My. What to say unless they ask you. And if they ask you, what do you think the problem is?

Suzie: That's still delicate.

Mel:  Yeah. Obviously you're not going to be an ******* about it, but if they  ask you and you say, do you want me to be truthful? Although this may  be, share my truth, tough. And they say yes or no. I mean, I still think  you need to sugarcoat it.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: So  if it's really like, you know, something very personally physical that  you think's off, or something about their personality, which, let's face  it, is probably harder to.

Suzie: Yeah. Like what? Are you gonna really tell someone to lose ten pounds?

Mel: No,  I wouldn't say that. Cause I think that's horrible. And I think. I'm  not sure that's super relevant. Depending on, you know, how realistic  your dating is. I mean, if you're trying to date tall, six foot five.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: Amazing looking, super athletic, whatever. Men, young men. And you are 40 pounds overweight.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  Then I think you might need to readjust your expectations. Yes, but no,  I'm talking more. I mean, what do you do if somebody's like, I've heard  this before, actually, where some. This sounds strange, but somebody has  bad breath, which is like a thing.

Suzie: Halitosis.

Mel:  Yeah. And what do you, what do you say? Oh, they have bo. Do you know  what Bo is? I was just thinking whether it was an English. Yeah. So they  don't use enough deodorant.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: Or, or something like that. They're not dirty or they just smell or the breath smells or something.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  Feet smell. They don't do the toenails. I don't know. But I. I think,  again, even that you have to be careful. But I think there are ways of  saying it. But it's very difficult. I don't. Unless they ask you. I  mean, I can think of a couple of my friends who are actually now happily  married. And they were struggling and I sort of knew why. It wasn't  anything physical.

Suzie: Can you give us an example?

Mel: Well, they were both beautiful.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  Both very attractive women. But they're mega aggressive. Right. Mega  full on. Which a lot of women are today. Jen, X and up. They are very  aggressive. Very full on. Actually, as an example, yesterday Suzy and I  were on a train.

Suzie: Oh, what? My God.

Mel:  Going from London to Oxford and we are in the quiet zone. If anybody  knows anything about trains in England, the quiet zone, as you might  think, is the quiet zone. I ******* being quiet. Don't talk. You're not  supposed to make phone calls. So if you want to go into the quiet zone  and listen to our pod, that's what you would do.

Suzie: That's great. Read small conversations.

Mel: Yeah. It's not.

Suzie: Keep your voice down.

Mel:  Yeah. And, you know, because we have a lot of trains in England and  people travel a lot. It's. It's a thing. You might be spending quite a  few hours on the train and you might want to go somewhere and listen to  music, listen to a pod, read book, blah, blah. This woman behind us has a  full pitched, I think, entire carriage herd. And not just truly very,  very, very loud voice. Really obnoxious. Having a fight with her bank.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  About a payment. So something like, really quite. You really don't want  the whole world to know. No, you're talking to your bank.

Suzie: It is so crazy to me that that was happening on the train and.

Mel: She was screaming very. She was screaming and everyone around was laughing.

Suzie: She was like, you're not listening to me.

Mel: She  had a french accent, so we'll add that bit to it. Yeah. You're not  listening, and I'm going to complain. And anyway. But. And this was  almost the entire hour.

Suzie: To Oxford, and every time she spoke, everyone else was looking around in the car being like, we see something.

Mel: Exactly. So the point, like, why am I telling you this?

Suzie: I'm scary. To even show up to her.

Mel: Yeah. If she was my friend, I'd ******* know why she wasn't getting any dates.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: I  mean, I wouldn't want to work with the woman, let alone she was  terrifying. And I know a lot of women who are like that. They're very,  very aggressive because they feel in the workplace or in any kind of  administrative thing or whatever.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: In order to be taken seriously, they have to be not assertive, which is a different thing. Aggressive.

Suzie: Right.

Mel:  Full on ******* ***** mode. And then what happens? Which I personally  don't agree with, but that's for another part. And then in their  personal life. So basically super masculine, if you like. Even though I  don't know many women, many men like this woman for. Yeah. And then they  bring it into their personal life. They don't sort of tone it down. And  I hate to break it to you, ladies, men, whether they're my age, your  age, or like a pod we've just done. They're a Gen Z. They don't like it.  I don't like it. Why would they like it? It's this horrible, super  aggressive vibe. And it's. You could be the most attractive woman in the  world. But if you're like that or you're very cold. Yeah, it's hard.

Suzie:  But how do you change that about someone? How do you even tell them  that? Like, hey, maybe you're a little aggressive for the men you're  trying to attract, and then they take that super personally, and then  they don't ever talk to you again.

Mel: Yeah. I mean, I think it's very difficult.

Suzie: Did you tell your friend about this?

Mel: I didn't say anything.

Suzie: Oh, wow. Yeah.

Mel: But  she actually, it's odd because she changed. Like, she met the love of  her life, quite literally, and she's a completely different person.

Suzie: That's so interesting.

Mel: It  kind of softened it. Not in a sexist way. Nothing like that. She just  was. Almost had this aggression to survive kind of vibe about her, and  then she's not anymore. She's not like that. I mean, she's a lovely  person. She was just very aggressive in interactions, particularly with  men.

Suzie: Wow.

Mel: I  think because she, you know, you're nervous. You're. You're stressed  about the fact you haven't met whoever or whatever it is, and it comes  out in the wrong way. I didn't tell her. No. She didn't ask, so I didn't  tell her.

Suzie: Yeah, there you go.

Mel: But she found somebody, and that's great. And they're very happy. I'm very happy for them.

Suzie: Yeah. So, like, if someone smells.

Mel:  Well, I do know people in work situations where they've had to tell  subordinates. That sounds terrible. Subordinates people, you know?

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: For  them that, you know, you smell. Yeah. And you're in an office and you  got to do something at it, and that is pretty tricky. The halitosis  thing, I think, is a harder thing. I mean, you could just put some  mints.

Suzie:  Yeah, it is. It is interesting. This is, like, kind of. I mean, it is  kind of relevant. So I had a friend. I'm still friends with him, but  it's been, like, a while. Like, he lives on the other side of the  country now, but his breath smelled so bad for, like, a long time, and I  was like, oh, my God. What is going on? And he smoked and he drank, and  he wasn't the healthiest person. I never told him, but it turned out he  had mouth cancer. And, like, I'm like, oh, my God. If I had said  something earlier, and he's fine, but if I'm like, if I had said  something ******* earlier about it, then maybe he would have got it  checked out. I mean, I have no idea. Maybe not, but it's just so  interesting. I'm like, so obviously these things are. Just check  yourself. That's what I also don't get. I'm like, do you not smell it on  you?

Mel: Right?

Suzie: How does this person not smell it?

Mel: I mean, like, you, I'm obsessed with mints.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: I have in my bag at any one time.

Suzie: Always gum.

Mel: I have gum. Yeah. I have mints. And I have, like, a breath freshener thing.

Suzie: Good for you.

Mel: And  my parents. My parents, my children are like, oh, my God, that's so  embarrassing. I'm like, I don't give a **** about that.

Suzie: Why? I'd rather. Bad breath is embarrassing.

Mel: I  always have a minty product because I can, like, now we just had some  lunch. I can taste my mouth. It tastes of the stuff I ate.

Suzie: Exactly.

Mel: So I know that, that. Oh, you know, when you've had tea or coffee, you can taste it.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: I  don't get it. I know. And then, as we have discussed and as you know  about me, I'm obsessed about very. Probably a little OCD about personal  cleanliness. I can smell if I smell.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: It's my body. I have a nose. I can sniff it.

Suzie: I understand what's going on here.

Mel: I get it. I mean, I can sniff if bits of my body. Sniff, sniff.

Suzie: I don't want to sniff my body unless it smells if I was going.

Mel: To have an interaction with the opposite sex.

Suzie: Yes, exactly.

Mel: I  need to de sniff because you're going to, like, if you're going to kiss  somebody, surely you're not going to do that with full on garlicky  coffee breath.

Suzie: I know. That's also the thing. It's like, that's why dinner is never good for a first date.

Mel: I agree.

Suzie: Never good for a first date.

Mel: I agree.

Suzie: Coffee's also not great for a first date because it's too corporate.

Mel: A very good idea.

Suzie:  But, like, cocktails and some nibbles, maybe like some, like, little bar  snacks or something. Perfect for a state. You typically won't, you  know, be having, like, garlic cloves for a snack.

Mel: Really?

Suzie: At a little bar, maybe kimchi, but.

Mel: Like, you know, don't eat the kimchi would be my advice.

Suzie: It's just like being aware.

Mel:  Yeah. Of what is going on 100%. I mean, come on. I mean, you must be  able to smell it. And the other thing I would say, this is a very older  person about the first date is your stomach is heavy. Right?

Suzie: Yes.

Mel:  That you've eaten. If you've gone for a really nice meal, you know, you  might have to go to the loo I'm not going to explain to you what you  might need to do, because I think you can all grasp that.

Suzie: I think we can understand.

Mel: And you could feel sort of bloated and stuff.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: And the last thing you want to do is be rolling around.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: So, do you like that? I did so, yeah, but absolutely, just be self aware. But people are not self aware, are they?

Suzie:  No, they, they're literally the, like, people nowadays. I mean, maybe  not nowadays, but, like, I feel like hygiene, even though we're so  obsessed with skincare and all these other things, it's like people  still don't really understand or they don't check themselves properly.

Mel: It's fascinating.

Suzie: It's the weirdest thing.

Mel: What do you think is the most common thing that you.

Suzie: I think bad breath is the worst also.

Mel: Older men.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie:  And that's why I'm like, I'm always curious about, like. Cause my friend  had that, you know, horrible thing happen and then, and I'm like, maybe  it's like a mouth disease thing. Maybe they just haven't gone to the  dentist because older men, older people, you need to take care of  yourself more. Like, quicker or more regularly. More regularly. Thank  you, darling. Yeah. So maybe they're just not doing that. But it's weird  to me. Cause it's not like I'm hooking up with, like, almost been.

Mel:  Yeah. No, I think it's also maybe. I don't know if you're eating, going  out for a lot of meals and stuff like that. And obviously the older you  get, I don't want to say you're like, sort of slightly decrepit, but  you. I don't know, but I've known young people with bad breath.

Suzie: Oh, my God.

Mel: Yeah, bad bo. I mean, the bo.

Suzie: The bo thing is a younger thing. I think bad breath is an older thing.

Mel: Oh.  Like, I walked past this person the other day and I was like, oh, my. I  almost was like, as I walked past, because I know they haven't used  deodorant, and we all know I'm obsessive. Like, I have a deodorant, then  I put spray, then I put perfume. This is after 14,000 layers. Yeah.  Body lotion. I'm. I'd be very, very concerned if somebody thought I  smelt.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: And  I think, you know, it's. So we should say that, like, and then we'll  stop talking about halitosis, is that people, obviously, when you eat  and you drink alcohol, because that also stinks. That's the other thing.  People don't realize, like, you smell.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: You can smell wine if you've been drinking it.

Suzie: Like, is this new information? I don't know.

Mel: You  realize it. I do. But it is quite normal. So there's nothing wrong with  you. If that's the case. We're talking about a really kind of pungent  smell. But I guess maybe you don't know.

Suzie:  So, yeah, if you are that friend who is not getting dates and your  friends haven't told you anything because maybe you just haven't asked  or don't want to know, we are telling you, just sniff yourself.

Mel: Sniff yourself and maybe, okay, this is it.

Suzie: Don't be so aggressive.

Mel:  Don't be so aggressive. If they. They don't necessarily ask you, but  they're complaining, they're going, this isn't working. Maybe they're  getting first dates, but they're not getting second dates. Maybe because  that's probably, if you're dating, that's the end, right? The first  date's probably the easy bit. It's like continuing to date somebody you  like and they're not sort of asking you another date or whatever the  process is. Who the **** knows, right?

Suzie: Who the **** knows?

Mel: Is  maybe you could volunteer something, a piece of information and say it  nicely and kindly and said, have you thought about this? Obviously not.  Have you thought about the fact your breath stinks? Maybe think about, I  don't know. You're gonna have to use your smarts and your wits about.  Yeah, yeah. And please, please don't be cruel. It's ******* horrible.  Because also, you don't want them to say something about you you don't  realize.

Suzie: That's right.

Mel: So be very, very careful when you criticize other people.

Suzie: That's right.

Mel:  Because you know, you're not perfect. I always say this to people. Just  remember, nobody perfect. And something about you that you've not really  realized, whether it's your personality or whatever the **** it is,  could really annoy other people. And you don't realize. So be prepared.  If you criticize somebody, you should always be prepared to receive  criticism. So if you don't like it, don't say it.

Suzie: Right. Very good.

Mel: But  if it's your friend and you care about your friend and they haven't  asked you, but they're worried and they're going on about it, maybe you  can think of a way to say something kind and helpful but not critical.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel: If  it's a physical thing like we've just talked about odor, that's hard.  But maybe you could ask them some questions saying, what do you think?  What happened on the day. What do you think? Did you kiss? Like, maybe  you could try guide them towards this point, like you said at the  beginning? Yeah, yeah, yeah. So actually, we agree.

Suzie:  We definitely do agree. I mean, it's just very difficult or can be very  difficult because I have also had friends who are obviously younger just  trying to get into the dating. Dating game. You know, like, maybe  they've just gone out of a relationship or, you know, who knows? And  they're just finding it hard to stick with dates. Like. Like you're  saying, like, get that second date. Or, like. And, I mean, there's other  things where it's, like, it has to do with, you know, and I hate saying  this, but, like, not having sex on the first date every time or, like,  you know what I mean? Like, there's just.

Mel: You should, or you should, you shouldn't. Yeah.

Suzie: Like, you know, that's just. If you do want to take this a little bit more seriously than you.

Mel: Think, like, it's very old fashioned of you.

Suzie: I  know. Well, for me, I'm like, I don't give a **** right now because who  cares about dating right now for me? But, like, I'm like. Cause I'm not  looking for a relationship. But for the people who are looking for a  relationship, it's just the truth that men will look at you differently  if you do **** on the first date. And so keep doing that.

Mel:  Well, it leaves nothing to the imagination. I mean, it sounds awful and  it's quite old fashioned, but I don't think it's changed is you've got  to. And it works the other way, too.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  Like, if the woman wants to, and you're very chivalrous and you sort of  take her the door and kiss her and leave her. Like, you've got. It's  almost like leads.

Suzie: It's foreplay.

Mel: It's foreplay. Yeah. And it's like leaving something to the imagination.

Suzie:  Yeah, but I mean, there's also the thing of that being like, you know,  what if you're bad in bed and then they're like, I don't want to ****  you, and they don't even know you before that. That's true. So you're  kind of giving them that first impression still. But it's bad  experience. And maybe it's not a bad experience. Cause he's bad at bad.  Maybe you're bad.

Mel: Yeah, I mean, it's true. It could be all of those.

Suzie:  And that's the same thing where it goes with guys. It's like men. If  you're looking for a relationship. Don't **** her on the first day if  you want a relationship with her. Because what if you're bad in bed? And  women are very much. We are very easier to get over that. If we like  you and we don't know if we like you yet on.

Mel: The first date, then you could teach them.

Suzie:  And if we care enough about it or, like, we like the guy a lot, then we  are happy to be teachers and the things of, like, whatever.

Mel: But  I think that's actually a very good point, you know? But, yeah,  obviously it's different whether you're actually dating to be in a  relationship or you're just having some fun. Yeah, put it that way.  There are obviously two different things. And if somebody is repeatedly  not getting a second date. And, I mean, I think it's also tough because  they. They may be, like you said, come out of relationship and they're a  bit bitter. And so that bitter sort of comes across as this sort of  angry.

Suzie: Yeah.

Mel:  Angry, aggressive rage sort of thing, which I think is quite common.  Yeah. And I think you also have to. It's also about your expectations.  Like, surely you can get a vibe from the guy. Don't try and make a woman  or a man into something that they're not. So if they're very clearly  not interested. Okay, thank you very much. And just move on.

Suzie: Yes.

Mel: Just don't keep beating the same drum.

Suzie: That's right.

Mel: I think.

Suzie:  Yes. And then it's also, like, people, like, from what I've seen from  some of my friends, people are so. They really wanna stand out when  they're meeting people and all that stuff. But it's like, sometimes  they're just not doing it in the right way. That makes sense.

Mel: How do they want stand out?

Suzie:  Like they're dressed or sometimes with the way they're dressed. But  mostly it's just, like, with the comments they make when they're, like,  in a group or, like, in. And I'm like, this isn't you. Like, what are  you doing? Like, do you know what I mean? Like, they'll say weird things  and I'm like, aggressive. Women will be aggressive. Like, more like  that because they have to stand out and they have to show the other  people that they're in charge or, like, whatever it might be. And I'm  like, you have to stop doing that if you want people to kind of, like,  exactly, like, want to get to know you a little bit deeper.

Mel: I think it's also. And I know it's very easy for me to say, I do say this, but I think it's also nerves and kind of panic.

Suzie: Yeah, 100%.

Mel:  Particularly with women. I know what it's like. You get to a certain  age, and you start to, like, slightly internally panic. And let me. And  you sort of say things like you're talking about. And let me tell you,  people can smell fear.

Suzie: Yeah. They came.

Mel:  Don't, you know, don't be so stressed about every individual date. I  know. Again, that's very easy for me to say, but you can't make  something into something it isn't. So just kind of enjoy each experience  and be a little bit more relaxed about it. And then you'll find the  person, like, if you're relaxed and nice, and you. Then some people will  gravitate. Gravitate towards you. A natural. Yeah, but, yeah, I think  you're right. But I think it's a normal reaction. It's horrible. And  people don't like dating. I mean, you just want to get over it. You just  want to be like, okay, let's just get on with it. But you have to go  through this whole.

Suzie:  And then it's hard when you haven't had sex in a while, of course. And  then, like, kind of desperate for sex, and we're just talking about,  like, that thumping of hormones.

Mel: Yeah.

Suzie:  Of just, like, you know, I need sex. How do I do it? And, like, it's  hard to say no to sex on the first day if you really want it.

Mel:  Yeah. I mean, absolutely. There's that. And also there could be nerves  if you've been with the same person for a very long time. Yeah. So  you're with that person. So it's kind of nerve wracking for them. Would  be with another person. And maybe you think what you did is not what  they do and you're nervous about it, and I think that's quite normal.  But I think, yeah, I think if you're. I think you're right. If you just  be yourself and stop trying to maybe act so much, it would it be easier.  But I do appreciate. That's very easy for me to say, but. So, going  back to the. Just to sort of tune off, tune out. What do we say? Finish  the conversation.

Suzie: Oh, very good.

Mel: Whatever I'm trying to say.

Suzie: Conclude.

Mel: Conclude.

Suzie: There you go.

Mel: Thank you. It's been a long week, ladies and gentlemen.

Suzie: Jesus Christ. The jet lag is still real. We've been here for a little bit.

Mel:  Very long week. Is that you want to help your friend. You really do. But  be nice. Be kind. Be nice. Don't be an *******. Don't be a *******  dude. Think of something to say that's, you know. And I don't mean if  they got bo, leave a, you know, a deodorant. Stick deodorant, stick on  there, whatever.

Suzie:  Or do be like, hey, I just got this really great deodorant and it was a  two for one deal. Do you want it? Stick another bag. Don't even let them  answer.

Mel: Wow.

Suzie: That's what I would do.

Mel: Wow.

Suzie: If I knew my friend smelled.

Mel: Wow.

Suzie: What are they gonna say? No, I don't want a free deodorant. And then I'll be like, that's how I know you smell.

Mel: Wow, Susie.

Suzie: You know, I'm just saying.

Mel: So what are you gonna do about the halitosis? I can't get over.

Suzie: Put breath mints in there. I mean, maybe take him to the doctor. Cause you never know.

Mel: That is terrifying. That makes it literally his mouth was rotting then.

Suzie:  Yes, that's why it smelled. And it was like, not like a regular, like,  bad breath. Like, this was like. And I was like, oh, my God. Like, it's  hard to say that to someone. Of course it is, because you're like, I  don't know how to bring that up. Yeah, but literally, yeah, it was  horrible. So he's better now?

Mel:  He's fine. I'm very happy for him. Try and help your friends. And even  if they ask you what do you think it is, still be kind, don't tell.

Suzie:  And also just be like, do you want me to be honest? Or like, do you want  me to be kind of more supportive in the way of, like, you know, there's  ways that you can even ask them to give you to not have this kind of  weird thing now with your friend, who. Yeah, maybe you've just been mean  to them.

Mel:  Yeah. But I do think the dating thing is a huge. I mean, just like this  week, looking at the hinge pro, we were having some fun looking at  Suzy's hinge, and, you know, she changed her location to London and just  to see what the guys are like, and it's just like, stop trying so hard.  These men, very annoying. It's just like. And again, this is not me.  I'm not on hinge, but it's like they're trying so very hard. It's bath  making.

Suzie:  Yes. Whereas just the prompts, they do, I think, for older men too.  Like, they're just like. I'm like, it's okay. You're gonna like. You're a  good looking guy. You seem like you have your **** together in the way  of, like, money. And whatever else it seems, I have no idea who you are,  but there is these things where you're like, I just looking for someone  to really sweep me off my feet, or I want to sweep them off their feet.

Mel: And you're on hinge, go on. Travels together.

Suzie: And I'm like, oh, my ******* God.

Mel: Well, there's standing. One guy was standing in front of a Lamborghini.

Suzie: Oh, my God.

Mel: It's very nice. But one thing you should know is that probably isn't his Lamborghini.

Suzie: Exactly.

Mel: And if he had a Lamborghini, maybe he doesn't need to be on hinge.

Suzie: Exactly. Maybe he's on Raya instead.

Mel: So I'd be very suspicious. I want to know is if the Lamborghini comes to the first date, it better. Yeah, better.

Suzie: I'm not going. No. He's like, it's actually in the shop. Sorry.

Mel: Yeah, it's in the shop. My wife's borrowing it.

Suzie: Yeah, exactly.

Mel: But  anyway, we've tried to answer the question we appreciate is a very  difficult question. And I understand that you're very worried about your  friend and you want to help, and I think you can help. Just. Just be  kind.

Suzie: Yeah, be helpful.

Mel: Be kind. Don't be cruel. Don't be nasty.

Suzie: Not nastiness.

Mel: I  don't like nastiness. No. Because I personally, about myself, I very  much accept. Very, very much accept. I'm not perfect. And so you should  be very careful what you say to people.

Suzie: Yeah. And. Yeah, exactly. If they are your friend, you can be nice, but you should also be honest.

Mel: Helpfully, honestly, supportive, constructively honest.

Suzie: Thank you.

Mel: There we go.

Suzie: Are we done?

Mel: I think we're done.

Suzie: Good job. Well, toodles. From London.

Mel: Yes, toodles.

Suzie: Toodles. We will talk to you next time. And don't forget to go to sharingmyrtruth.com if  you have another truth you want to share with us, a comment, a  question, whatever you want. Mel wants to know. Susie wants to know.  Here we are. And got to share my truth pod on the socials.

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